Be A Good Wife....

How To Be A Good Wife

1.Communicate Effectively

Express your feelings and needs. Your husband doesn't have clairvoyant powers. If you want something, ask. If something is wrong, say so. Don't drop hints or figure he'll "come around.

" Send "I messages." Instead of accusing him of not meeting your needs, focus the conversation on yourself. For instance, tell him, "I feel ignored when I don't see you until 6:30 every night."

·         Listen to what he says. When he tells you something, repeat what he said back to him so that he knows you understand. For example, "I hear you saying that you're worried about finances, and that's why you've been working late."

·      Avoid passing judgment. Let him finish what he's saying before you respond. After he's done talking, offer a solution. For instance, say, "I'm willing to live on a tighter budget if that means that I get to see you more often."

   2. Pick your battles.

Some issues are worth fighting about, and some aren't. If you spend all of your time nitpicking him for minor problems that don't really matter, then he's not going to listen to you when major issues come up.

·       Criticism can destroy a relationship. As long as the dishes are clean and unbroken, for instance, don't      nag your husband about how to load the dishwasher "the right way." Let him do things his own way. Don't sweat the small stuff.

·         Avoid criticizing your husband without doing it constructively. Remember to try and be calm and rational,  as strong emotions can easily turn a discussion into an argument.

Talk to him at the right time. Don't just spring your problems on him whenever. Avoid bringing up problems before dinner, while he's paying bills or when he's immersed in a stressful situation, like fixing a problem with your car. And never, ever start an argument in front of your children.

3.Fight right.

Don't let anger take over because it may cause you to say things that you will regret later. Even when you don't agree with your husband, you need to respect his opinion and his viewpoint.

·        When you're wrong, admit it. You need to learn to respond to arguments and remain rational so you can recognize and apologize when you've made a misstep.

·      Understand that you may never agree on certain issues. No couple has an identical set of morals and beliefs, which means that both of you will need to learn to cope with occasions where you just can't resolve your opinions.

4.Talk to your husband, not about him.

Never talk to your friends or your family and say negative things about your husband if you're not communicating with him first. Talking about your husband behind his back is disloyal. When you get married, your first loyalty is to your partner, not to your birth family or your social group.